“Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’
Matt 25:36
In many prison ministries, mothers are often forgotten, but ministering to mothers of prisoners should also be a part of a prison ministry. Jack Wellman wrote the article below.
My Son’s in Prison!
I once received a message from a mother that just broke my heart. She said, “My son murdered my grandson…now he’s in prison for life! What am I going to do? I can’t go on. Please help me.” She was at a loss about what to do and I was at a loss about what to say. I cannot even imagine how hard this must have hurt her. Most of the time when I’m at a loss for words, I just listen. I can pray for their son and her, sometimes over the phone if she asks. It was one of the most heartbreaking messages I’ve ever received. When I preach or visit prisoners, I often hear them talk about their mothers. They sometimes ask me to contact them and help them deal with this trial. Frequently, when men and women prisoners are ministered to, their parents are forgotten, but the inmates I know won’t let me forget! More often than not, fathers are disconnected from their son’s life, therefore they have little knowledge of what’s going on, or in some cases, don’t care to know about it. A few fathers are still connected to their sons in prison, but our experience has been that about 95% of the time, their mothers are the only ones to keep in touch with their sons and daughters. Maybe the number of absent or apathetic fathers didn’t help to prevent their children from going to prison, but prisoner’s mothers are often the forgotten ones. I know there’s nothing I can do besides pray and try to give them hope, but one thing that does help is looking at things through the eyes of God. In other words, if we see the long-range picture and not just a snapshot of the moment, we can see how God can and might be working in their son’s or daughter’s life. That might not seem like much hope, but it is still hope.
Set Free in Prison
There are countless numbers of men and women (my wife writes some women prisoners) who have been saved while in prison. Often, they describe a time when they’ve reached the very bottom, and all they can do is look up, but that’s just how God reaches people. When they’re humbled, God can get their attention, but God cannot heal what is first not broken. God is near the broken and crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). When you’ve reached the very bottom, there is only one way to look: up. Many have come to saving faith and developed a personal relationship with Jesus Christ (Acts 4:12). Ironically, many prisoners are set free behind bars, while many in the world who think they are free are held captive by the god of this world (2 Cor 4:4). After many of these men hit rock bottom, they turned to the Rock. When they reached the point that they felt there was nothing more they could do, they knew that only God could help them now, but that’s just what He was waiting for. He changes these men and women’s hearts, which only He can do (Prov 21:1). It isn’t us or our church but the Spirit of God (2 Chron 32:8; Jer 17:5) that changes them into a new creation in Christ (2 Cor 5:17). They must still pay the consequences for their crimes, but not for their sins. Not after they’ve put their trust in Christ. Then they become the very righteousness of Christ (2 Cor 5:21).
A Mother’s Love
When I speak with mothers, it’s hard not to feel their pain. Of course, I don’t know what they’re going through, but I do know they may need someone to talk to. One lady says she brings her dump truck and unloads it all on me, and sometimes apologizes for it, but I tell her, “It’s okay. That’s why I am here.” I can sit and listen if nothing else. I can promise her I’ll be praying for her son or daughter, but for her too. The mother is often the only line of communication with the outside world that a prisoner has, but we can help them by being their legs out in the world, and many of these prisoners love that we keep in touch with their mothers. That makes them feel a little better about their mom, especially because most of these prisoners admit that they’ve hurt their mother…and most feel bad about that. Even here, we focus on the mercy of God Who forgives us of all our sins (1 John 1:9). Even if the courts don’t clear their records, God has. They may have been declared guilty by the state, but in the highest, supreme court of all, they’ve been declared “not guilty” by the blood of the Lamb. It was the truth that set them free (John 8:31-32).
The Forgotten
There are so many great prison ministries today, but one thing that a lot of them unknowingly neglect is that these men and women have mothers and fathers. Sadly, the majority of prisoners have little or no contact with their fathers. The fathers may have divorced or separated and so there was little interaction with their father anyway. There are a few fathers who are sometimes involved in their son’s or daughter’s life in prison, but in our prison ministry, only about 1 in 20 prisoners ever hear from their father. That’s why the prisoner’s mothers must not be forgotten. We can offer to be there for her in court; we can make sure the children get some Christmas presents; we can offer resources that they might not have known about and various other things that she may not have tried or thought about. Mostly, we’re there for moral support and try to reassure her that God uses evil for good; even the evil from our own hands.
Conclusion
Countless mothers have gone through the pain of having a child in prison. If you know of a mother or father who has a son or daughter in prison, pray for them and ask God to uphold them and pray for their child too. Jesus once said, “For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me” (Matt 25:35-36), so in actuality, when we visit prisoners, and I believe we visit their mother’s too, it is as Jesus said: “Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me” (Mat 25:40). Something’s seriously wrong if we do not do any of these things for the “least of these.”
Article by Jack Wellman, edited by Robert Irvine
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Thank you for your ministry. My son was in prison for 8 years. It was the most painful of years yet the most beautiful of years. It was people like you who helped me hold on to hope.
And today my son is a follower of Christ and free from meth addiction. I couldn’t see it in the moment but looking back I see how God used every moment to draw my son to Himself.
God bless you.
I am really moved by this idea! Bless the Lord 🙏 But, how do we find the mothers?